Are you good at keeping people at arms length?

If you think about it, are you good at keeping people at arms length? Why is that? Living with an alcoholic can have a profound impact on the family, if you’ve been the child of an alcoholic then you’ve probably learnt not to trust people.  Have the parent(s) you’ve grown up with repeatedly done or Read More

Did your sober parent affect you more than the alcoholic?

I was pondering the other day, I wonder, did your sober parent affect you more than the alcoholic. I’m sure mine did and here’s why. Most of my childhood was a mess in terms of having a healthy home life, so many confusing messages, lies, secrets and lots of negative comments or insinuations.  I realised Read More

Things you didn’t understand about the alcoholic in your life

What are or were the things you didn’t understand about the alcoholic in your life? I’m assuming quite a lot. It can be hard to make sense of their behaviour and choices they make.  As a child of course it’s the only life you knew, but I’m guessing at times you knew it wasn’t right.  Read More

No power or control as the child of an alcoholic

Did you have no power or control as the child of an alcoholic? Feeling out of control isn’t a nice feeling at all and if you’ve been the child of an alcoholic, you’ll know that feeling all too well. If you’ve lived with a parent that drinks too much then it’s likely you won’t know Read More

Do you struggle to relax because you feel you need to be alert?

Do you struggle to relax because you feel you need to be alert? You feel apprehensive. Tip toeing around. Anticipating what will happen next. I know I did in my home and still do in certain situations. It’s that fight or flight response. As the child of an alcoholic, you learn to be on edge. To Read More