No power or control as the child of an alcoholic

Did you feel that you had no power or control as the child of an alcoholic parent? Is this still showing up in your life as an adult? What is control? Control is essentially the power to influence or direct a person’s behaviour or the course of events.  It isn’t always a bad thing, it Read More

Didn’t understand about why your parent drank?

As a child it’s not a surprise that you didn’t understand why your parent drank.  You don’t get that sort of information, often the drinker doesn’t always know either.  That doesn’t make life any easier does it? I know that you maybe someone that blames yourself for your parent(s) drinking. Maybe if you were perfect Read More

Punishing yourself for what the alcoholic said to you

If you’re anything like me then you’ve probably spent time punishing yourself for what the alcoholic said to you. Maybe not in an obvious way, but you may still believe what they told you. The hurtful words they shared and criticisms they offloaded onto you.  That stuff hurts and it can stick with you, throughout Read More

Are intimate relationships difficult?

Are intimate relationships difficult for you? If you’re anything like me then you probably struggle to relax easily into a new relationship. You may still find it hard at times if you’ve been with someone a while.  It takes time to trust the other person, to know they aren’t going to hurt you and to Read More

Are you good at keeping people at arms length?

If you think about it, are you good at keeping people at arms length? Why is that? Living with an alcoholic can have a profound impact on the family, if you’ve been the child of an alcoholic then you’ve probably learnt not to trust people.  Have the parent(s) you’ve grown up with repeatedly done or Read More