As a child it’s not a surprise that you didn’t understand why your parent drank. You don’t get that sort of information, often the drinker doesn’t always know either. That doesn’t make life any easier does it? I know that you maybe someone that blames yourself for your parent(s) drinking. Maybe if you were perfect
If you’re anything like me then you’ve probably spent time punishing yourself for what the alcoholic said to you. Maybe not in an obvious way, but you may still believe what they told you. The hurtful words they shared and criticisms they offloaded onto you. That stuff hurts and it can stick with you, throughout
It’s easy to mould yourself into what the drinker wants and needs. Which can easily apply to other areas of your life. Like me, are you good at transforming yourself into what people want? Sometimes being yourself isn’t accepted by others, whether that’s parents, caregivers, friends or people at work. The drinker in your life
I was pondering the other day, I wonder, did your sober parent affect you more than the alcoholic. I’m sure mine did and here’s why. Most of my childhood was a mess in terms of having a healthy home life, so many confusing messages, lies, secrets and lots of negative comments or insinuations. I realised
What are or were the things you didn’t understand about the alcoholic in your life? I’m assuming quite a lot. It can be hard to make sense of their behaviour and choices they make. As a child of course it’s the only life you knew, but I’m guessing at times you knew it wasn’t right.