No power or control as the child of an alcoholic

Did you feel that you had no power or control as the child of an alcoholic parent? Is this still showing up in your life as an adult? What is control? Control is essentially the power to influence or direct a person’s behaviour or the course of events.  It isn’t always a bad thing, it Read More

Didn’t understand about why your parent drank?

As a child it’s not a surprise that you didn’t understand why your parent drank.  You don’t get that sort of information, often the drinker doesn’t always know either.  That doesn’t make life any easier does it? I know that you maybe someone that blames yourself for your parent(s) drinking. Maybe if you were perfect Read More

Punishing yourself for what the alcoholic said to you

If you’re anything like me then you’ve probably spent time punishing yourself for what the alcoholic said to you. Maybe not in an obvious way, but you may still believe what they told you. The hurtful words they shared and criticisms they offloaded onto you.  That stuff hurts and it can stick with you, throughout Read More

Are you good at transforming yourself into what people want?

It’s easy to mould yourself into what the drinker wants and needs. Which can easily apply to other areas of your life. Like me, are you good at transforming yourself into what people want? Sometimes being yourself isn’t accepted by others, whether that’s parents, caregivers, friends or people at work.  The drinker in your life Read More

Did your sober parent affect you more than the alcoholic?

I was pondering the other day, I wonder, did your sober parent affect you more than the alcoholic. I’m sure mine did and here’s why. Most of my childhood was a mess in terms of having a healthy home life, so many confusing messages, lies, secrets and lots of negative comments or insinuations.  I realised Read More