Find Peace When You Live With An Alcoholic

Is it possible to find peace when you live with an alcoholic? Well, I’ve not personally experienced it myself and I suspect if you don’t follow a 12 step programme like Al-Anon, then the answer is No! If you haven’t heard of Al-Anon, I’ve got it covered. I shared my experience of Al-Anon here. As Read More

Are you good at transforming yourself into what people want?

It’s easy to mould yourself into what the drinker wants and needs. Which can easily apply to other areas of your life. Like me, are you good at transforming yourself into what people want? Sometimes being yourself isn’t accepted by others, whether that’s parents, caregivers, friends or people at work.  The drinker in your life Read More

Are you good at keeping people at arms length?

If you think about it, are you good at keeping people at arms length? Why is that? Living with an alcoholic can have a profound impact on the family, if you’ve been the child of an alcoholic then you’ve probably learnt not to trust people.  Have the parent(s) you’ve grown up with repeatedly done or Read More

Have you experienced flashbacks of the alcoholic in your life?

What are flashbacks? Have you experienced flashbacks of the alcoholic in your life? A Flashback Involuntary recurrent memory. It’s a psychological phenomenon in which an individual has a sudden, usually powerful, re-experiencing of a past experience or elements of a past experience. These experiences can be happy, sad, exciting, or any other emotion one can Read More

Did your sober parent affect you more than the alcoholic?

I was pondering the other day, I wonder, did your sober parent affect you more than the alcoholic. I’m sure mine did and here’s why. Most of my childhood was a mess in terms of having a healthy home life, so many confusing messages, lies, secrets and lots of negative comments or insinuations.  I realised Read More