Punishing yourself for what the alcoholic said to you

If you’re anything like me then you’ve probably spent time punishing yourself for what the alcoholic said to you. Maybe not in an obvious way, but you may still believe what they told you. The hurtful words they shared and criticisms they offloaded onto you.  That stuff hurts and it can stick with you, throughout Read More

Are intimate relationships difficult?

Are intimate relationships difficult for you? If you’re anything like me then you probably struggle to relax easily into a new relationship. You may still find it hard at times if you’ve been with someone a while.  It takes time to trust the other person, to know they aren’t going to hurt you and to Read More

Find Peace When You Live With An Alcoholic

Is it possible to find peace when you live with an alcoholic? Well, I’ve not personally experienced it myself and I suspect if you don’t follow a 12 step programme like Al-Anon, then the answer is No! If you haven’t heard of Al-Anon, I’ve got it covered. I shared my experience of Al-Anon here. As Read More

Are you good at transforming yourself into what people want?

It’s easy to mould yourself into what the drinker wants and needs. Which can easily apply to other areas of your life. Like me, are you good at transforming yourself into what people want? Sometimes being yourself isn’t accepted by others, whether that’s parents, caregivers, friends or people at work.  The drinker in your life Read More

Are you good at keeping people at arms length?

If you think about it, are you good at keeping people at arms length? Why is that? Living with an alcoholic can have a profound impact on the family, if you’ve been the child of an alcoholic then you’ve probably learnt not to trust people.  Have the parent(s) you’ve grown up with repeatedly done or Read More