Hi I’m Jo and I get up every day feeling inspired and motivated to help women resolve the repetitive issues they face. I lived with an alcoholic father up to the age of 16 and I specialise in helping others like me. Being a perfectionist, over-achiever, over-thinker and experiencing anxiety are just some of the effects it’s had on me.
I’m passionate about supporting you to gain the confidence you need, as well as helping you realise you are worth it. You can say no, you can learn to understand and express your feelings. You no longer have to feel on edge all the time and hyper-alert to your surroundings without the ability to easily relax. Wouldn’t you like to trust people easier, be free of un-necessary responsibility and stop people pleasing?
What about overthinking and worrying about something 3 miles down the road? Or over-complicating things and feeling extremely uncomfortable in situations where there are a lot of unknowns? I’ve been there and I’m still a work in progress in some areas but I’ve transformed myself. I’ve done that through an enormous amount of self-help and 15+ years of sheer determination. Click here to see if you can relate to the behaviours I carried into adult life.
My vision is to create a world where those affected by someone’s drinking, addiction or serious mental health issue now or in the past feel heard and connected. With the awareness and courage to change it’s possible to have the chaos free life they deserve.
The Alcoholic in my life
My father was an alcoholic until his death in 1996, I remember the day very well. It was two months before my 21st birthday. I was working locally and I remember two policeman turning up to the office. My stomach sank, deep down I knew it had to be to do with dad.
The two policeman sat me down in the office and told me that my father had been found dead in his room that he rented, I was in total shock but didn’t realise it at the time. The words flowed, their mouths moved, but I stared like a robot and went into auto-pilot. I went upstairs to tell my boss and within minutes I left the office to go and find my mum and older sister. I decided to collect my youngest sister from school so that we could all be together.
In hindsight I’m not sure I handled it in the best way. Organising his funeral, his finances which wasn’t much and selling his car and possessions happened fast. It was all very clinical but I think it was my way of coping with the shock. It was a double-edged sword, I loved my father as he was the only one I had. I hated him at the same time and his death quite honestly was a relief. That said, I miss him hugely.
I now share my story to raise awareness of alcohol misuse and educate people about the impact it has on others. I’m an expert at living with alcoholism. I’ve invested a lot of time and energy into transforming myself. I feel I’m best able to help those who are in a similar situation to me. This is the same for those that have lived with any addiction or mental health problem. The behaviours and experiences we have are very similar.
There’s nothing like the empathy and connection you get from someone who just gets it. Whatever the context, whether it is a parent sharing with another parent about the trials and tribulations of raising a child. Alternatively, the understanding you feel when you share a problem with someone who has experienced the same thing.
My journey as an animation
What can you do now?
You might like to read some of my blog posts. They are mainly based on my experiences and I share lots of self-help tips and support for you. You can visit my inspirational posts and resources here, or maybe you’d like to join my closed Facebook community called “Change Your “Mind – Families of Addicts“.
If you’d like to have a more private chat, then you can Click here to email me. I know it can be scary and you may have all sorts of thoughts of how I will react to you or what I may say, but remember I’ve been there and I get it. I know how hard it can be to take that first step, so an email maybe a gentle way to connect.
You can also call me on (07732) 403305.
If you want me to speak at an event please email me with details about your audience. Include what you want to achieve and timescales. Please visit my testimonials page to see what others said about my speaking engagements.