A Warm Welcome
If you've ever lived with a parent that drank too much, you're in the right place!
As the daughter of an alcoholic, you've probably experienced things a child should never have seen or been through.
The impact of living with a parent that drank too much can be huge. Often you don't realise how much it's affected you. When you do, you have lots of questions. I'm here to help give you some answers and get the peace you deserve.
"Addiction is a family disease; one person may use, but everyone in the family suffers"
Do you see yourself?
When I first started my journey, I had no idea about all the different characteristics and roles we play when living with a parent that drinks too much. So it makes sense to outline that here:
Hyper-sensitive (to sounds, people, environments)
Controlling behaviour (feeling uncomfortable when not in control)
Difficulty experiencing and explaining feelings (often not even being aware of them, not knowing how to express them)
People pleasing (thinking of others, prioritising others needs and wants, not considering your own needs or knowing what they are)
Trouble speaking up or speaking up too much (you don't say what you think or want, alternatively you say things which upset others or come across as inappropriate)
Feelings of being overly responsible (taking on too much, being the first one to say yes)
Fear of abandonment (holding tight to people in your life for fear of being alone, feelings of insecurity, hypersensitive)
Struggle feeling safe (uncomfortable with new people/situations)
Inability to trust people (suspicious of people's motives or feeling others are unreliable)
Life just feels hard, things often feel like an effort and you really just want it to stop. But then, if things get simple and normal that's boring.. right?
Please remember this is all in a context, so you may be controlling in one area of your life but not in another.
All of these things will affect three main areas that I specialise in, these are:
Overwhelm, worry and fear
"Your life doesn't get better by chance, it gets better by change" Jim Rohn
If you want to take your self-care to the next level, click the link below to access my "All You" calendar, which will focus on improving your self-worth, self-esteem and identity, through practical daily tasks.
This calendar will give you practical things to do each day to help build your self-worth, self-esteem and identity. You 'll start to feel:
More confident in yourself, being able to recognising and accepting your good bits
Aware of your needs and ways to get them met
Further gratitude in your life helping you feel less knocked when things get you down, as you know it's not all bad
Improved trust and faith in yourself, reducing self-doubt
Increased gut instinct, trusting what you know is right for you
New tools to help you keep calm, feel peace and be more able to cope when things get toug